When you or someone close to you loses their job, suffer from chronic or terminal illness, experience a violent act or go through a disaster, you don’t just snap back with no ill effects. Even if you are a physically and emotionally healthy person, any loss of a significant nature, or too many losses in a short period of time, results in some form of grief.
When normal grief is complicated by new or existing anxiety, depression, substance abuse or other factors, it often causes severe problems functioning in life. If you are so grief-stricken that you begin thinking of suicide as the only way out, this is a sign that immediate help is needed.
Erick Sandstad, can help you manage the stages of grief and work through unresolved guilt, which may be keeping you from living a normal life.
What Is the difference between Grief and Bereavement?
Grief is the emotional reaction to a physical loss. It is often described as heartache and sorrow following the loss of a person, pet, place or situation that is a valued part of a person’s life.
There is also anticipatory grief, which is grief experienced prior to an actual loss. An example of anticipatory grief is worry and anxiety over a loved one who is dying from a terminal illness or the grief caused by potential divorce, or relationship break up or child leaving home for college.
Grieving, also called bereavement, is the process we go through in adjusting to situations in life following a loss. There is no “normal” or expected time for grieving. Some people will be able to return to normal functioning within weeks or months. Others, particularly those who experienced a loss that was traumatic and unexpected or whose daily life has been radically changed, may take a year or longer to fully adjust.
Every person experiences grief and loss in unique ways. In addition, a person’s feelings of grief will change from one time to the next and over time. How a person reacts to grief depends on the relationship he or she had with the person, object, or situation that was lost as well as the individual’s personality, life experiences and overall ability to cope.
Symptoms of Grief Include:
Prolonged and serious symptoms can also occur from grief, including severe anxiety, depression, physical illness, post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), and suicidal thoughts and actions.
What are the stages of Grief?
1. Denial: "No, it's not happening..."
2. Anger & Guilt: "Why me...?", "it's your fault...", "I pushed him/her away..."
3. Bargaining: "If you come back I will..."
4. Depression: "I am alone..."
5. Acceptance: "I will be Ok..."
While grief is humans’ natural response to loss, such feelings may be totally unexpected. Some of the losses that may result in grief include:
Treatment for Grief/Loss
Erick Sandstad is a dedicated professional who knows that your experience of grief and loss is unique. There is no cookie-cutter or typical treatment program that will work immediately and in the same way. That’s why he tailors his approach to your needs respecting your feelings and helping you progress through the stages of grief gently and at your own pace. Erick has extensive training in grief counseling, hypnotherapy and brainspotting therapy to help you ground yourself and release deep rooted sadness.
Counseling and support groups help our clients work through unresolved grief from a past loss that continues to cause complications or disruptions in their daily lives. For men or women who also have depression, prolonged anxiety, PTSD and/or substance abuse, his tailored approach involves treatment to address those issues concurrently.
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